Run Off and Join the Circle (O Magazine, November 2003)
Join hands, everyone—this month we celebrate the power of circles. Because when women band together—whether it's for Scrabble or support, reading or righting wrongs, the greater good or the greater hilarity (or maybe all the above)—life just seems to get better. It's kind of a girl thing. More
Need a Minister? How About Your Brother? (The New York Times, January 2003)
Last August in the Southern California desert, Blithe Smith, a lawyer, and David Bock, a children's television writer, exchanged wedding vows.
''Isn't this excellent?'' said Steven Amsterdam, the man marrying them. ''Two years ago, when I first suggested they meet each other, they approached the blind date with disdain and a lot of sarcasm.''
The ceremony continued with the reading of a series of e-mails that had flown between Mr. Amsterdam, the bride and the bridegroom. More
Corporate Bad Guys Make Many Seek the Road Less Traveled (The New York Times, July 2002)
Just three years ago, Ameet Shah, 24, was successfully laying the groundwork for life as a corporate titan. After graduating from Duke University, he had landed a $50,000-a-year job in New York at J. P. Morgan Chase, working 100-hour weeks on deals involving companies like Enron and Kmart. But no sooner had Mr. Shah settled into the perks of his new career—expense accounts, car services and enough cash to support an apartment in a doorman building—than his world was shaken by a market downturn and a stream of stories about corporate malfeasance. The deals—and the perks dried up, many of his colleagues were fired, and Mr. Shah got a peek at capitalism's dark side. More
Split the Check: New York's Free Lunch Is Gone (The New York Times, April 2001)
Here's news from a leading economic indicator—Jim's Shoe Repair on East 59th Street, where the other day the seats were filled with waiting customers and conversation was humming.
An Hèrmes salesman in a pink button-down shirt lamented that traffic in his Madison Avenue store, home of the $385 beach towel, has slowed since its gaudy opening party last fall. A silver-haired mortgage consultant, Robert Haney, said that he's given up eating at the Metropolitan Café near Sutton Place and is patronizing a local diner for his hamburger and fries. And Jim Rocco, the shop's owner, said these days people are only repairing what is absolutely necessary, though few are giving up a shine. ''It's a small luxury when you have to cut out the big ones,'' Mr. Haney said. ''Instead of buying new shoes, I'll have my old ones resoled.'' More
In Women's Groups, Back to 'Girl Talk' (The New York Times, April 1999)
It's a Saturday evening in the East Village, and the streets are pulsing with bar-hopping young people. But Candace Walsh and her posse of girlfriends—most of them artists and writers in their 20's and 30's, mostly single—have gathered in her one-bedroom apartment for Beauty Parlor Night.
The coffee table is scattered with powder puffs, nail files and hot-pink Hard Candy nail polish. A tape of 80's pop songs blasts in the background, as Shelby Gates, a freelance photographer, describes how a police officer recently ejected her from a subway station for conducting a photo shoot without a permit.
'Isn't that annoying,'' she says, smearing a mask of moisturizing lotion on Tiffany Licorish's face. More
Rooming With a Guy Named Mom (The New York Times, January 1999)
Stephen DeRosa, a co-star of the Off Broadway hit comedy ''The Mystery of Irma Vep,'' was catching up with a few fellow alumni of the Yale School of Drama at a midtown diner.
As the evening wound down and the others drifted off to their various closet-size apartments on the Lower East Side or in Brooklyn, Mr. DeRosa, 30, hopped into a ruby-red Mercury Mystique and sped home to a four-bedroom house in Westchester that he likes to call ''my mother's place.''
Maybe that's because it is. After finishing graduate school in 1996, Mr. DeRosa moved back to the spacious house he grew up in, to save money while building an acting career. But three years and a steady paycheck later, he has no plans to leave. More
Adventurous SWF seeking sould mate gets hottie (and bothered) (Outside Magazine, July 2006)
Sick of metrosexuals who sip wine through a straw, one active babe braves the wilds of SingleAndActive.com in search of a hunk who knows a bowline from a bow tie. Will she find true love—or the man of her screams? More
High Anxiety: Young, Smart, Successful, Popular—and a nervous wreck. Rachel Lehmann-Haupt confronts her inner bag lady. (O Magazine, May 2005)
The anxiety begins with a dream that my teeth have fallen out and I'm holding them in my hand. Then I wake up. It's usually 4:30 A.M. My bed is messy, my eyes hurt, and my body feels twisted. I roll over to try to go back to sleep, but the waves of worry have already begun, out of nowhere, up my spine, into my head, generating flash cards of the future: I'm 70 years old. I'm broke. I can't get a job. I'm surrounded by my shopping bags, leaning over a garbage can. More
Sex In The City: Law Enforcement's Newest Weapon Against the World's Oldest Profession Has Everyone Asking: When Men Go Shopping for Sex, Who Should Pay? (Self Magazine, September 1999)
Its just past 10 on a sunny Saturday morning in San Francisco. Inside a lecture room in the Hall of Justice, Norma Hotaling, a heavy set blonde in her mid-forties, stands at a podium in front of rows of men slumped in their chairs. Dressed in a conservative pantsuit and speaking in a tone that veers between confidence and condescension toward her audience, she describes her former life as a prostitute and heroin addict. "I was so trapped and confused that I thought if I just put a knife in you all the pain would go away," she says, her face contorting with anger. More
Why I Froze My Eggs (Newsweek, May 2009)
I had just turned 35 when I started thinking about freezing my eggs. I'd always thought I'd have a husband and a kid or two by 35—that's the ominous year when doctors start stamping women's medical charts with the words "advanced maternal age" if they are pregnant, and some warn that fertility starts to drop off a cliff if they are not. But instead I was single, with an adventurous career, and concerned about my eggs. More
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From Singleton to Family of Three in Less than Two Years. (New York Magazine, October 2006)
I was tired of being the single person at every party, not having someone to go to weddings with,” says Jane Harnick. “We’re not meant to go through life alone. And my friends said to me that people who want to get married get married.”
A 41-year-old manager of photography production for Ralph Lauren, Jane is sitting in her one-bedroom apartment on the Upper West Side, surrounded by her family: husband Adam Freifeld, with his shaved head, and 10-month-old daughter Roxie. Her mother, the actress Barbara Barrie, wanders in from the kitchen and sits down on the sofa, tucking her feet under Vinnie, Adam’s shepherd-Lab mix. More
Is the Right Chemistry a Click Nearer? (The New York Times, February 2006)
HELEN FISHER is a respected anthropologist at Rutgers University who has published four books and given scientific credibility to the idea that brain chemistry undergirds love and romance.
Match.com is an online matchmaking business that has become the largest of its kind even as the appeal of cyberhookups is cooling.
Now Dr. Fisher has been recruited by Match.com and given the title of chief scientific adviser to a spinoff Web site, Chemistry.com. The idea is that her laboratory insights will help daters search for Mr. or Ms. Right. More
Under Age: Adolescent Looks Are All The Rage (Vogue, August 1999)
Adolescent looks are all the rage, finds Rachel Lehmann-Haupt, and fashion's generation gao is vanishing fast.
Sunday afternoon, and the Delia's store in White Plains, New York, is bussing with teenage girls in bellbottom jeans and too much blue eye shadow. They chatter awkwardly as they peruse th eracks of clothes and shelves of toys, unsure whether they are grown-ups or children. The boutique, which opened by the company behind Delia's catalog—the veitable bbible of teen fashion. More
How To Talk Dirty And Influence People: The Selling of the Female Orgasm (Paper, January 1999)
The last time so many well-bred, heterosexual women were so brazen about sexuality was that year at summer camp when they discovered lipstick, smoking and boys. Fed up with dating by "the rules," many seem to be refusing to wait by the phone and are engaging in more caual encouters, then bragging to their friends about it. More
Girls School Seeks to Overcome Tech Gender Gap (Wired, October 1997)
While most people equate all-girls schools with white gloves and proper manners, Kathleen Bennett equates them with high self-esteem and high technology. In the fall of 1998, she plans to open the Girls' Middle School in Palo Alto, a sixth-through-eighth-grade school that will focus on math, science, and technology with the goal of shaping techno-savvy power babes. More
Sacred Raves (Yoga Journal, June 1995)
These all-night dance marathons look like hedonistic escape, but raves may just be the defining spiritual expression of a new generation.
On a Saturday night in an empty warehouse in the SoMa district of San Francisco, a wiry-haired DJ with tattoos running up his arms quietly sets up his mixing board while his buddy test runs the video shorts he has just designed on his computer. Yellow, red, and blue streams flow across four five-foot screens into mandala patterns that twist an turn like the rave dancers who will soon fill the room. More